Wednesday, July 29, 2009

Are you communicating?

I want to thank Sonya again for the book; The 5 love languages. It was an awesome book and I do believe that it has improved the communication in our house. It was about all kinds of communication and not just “love” languages. After reading the book, I realized that perhaps I wasn’t getting my messages out in other areas of my life as well. I have also applied some of the concepts at work with positive results. I think that the book would do a lot of people some good.

The other day I dropped by the grocery store on my way home from work. There is a Publix that I pass so it is an easy place to stop for a few items. I like this Publix because it is clean, neat and it has nice wide aisles. I only needed one thing (bottled water) so I made a beeline for the water aisle when I entered the store. I knew, pending any unforeseen delays, I would be in and out in a matter of a few minutes. As I passed the registers, there were four young people standing in the middle of the aisle near the checkout registers. There were two boys and two girls and they were in their lower 20’s.

They were chatting and laughing and it appeared like they came from and were returning to the beach. I know this because they were all in bathing suits and their hair looked like it had been wet. Each of the boys was carrying two cases of beer and I assumed they were trying to invite the girls to a party or something like that.

It only took a moment to get my water and return to the checkout lines. I passed them one by one trying to decide which one would be faster. There were at least two people in each line until I came to the one closest to the 4 people talking. There was only one girl in that line and she was just about done checking out. The four were still talking and laughing and I stood there for a few seconds waiting on them to start checking out. One of the guys glared at me for looking at them so I turned my attention toward the checkout line. The last person in that line was finishing up and getting her change so I walked into the line and put my two jugs of water on the conveyor.

As I was greeting the checkout girl one of the guys who had been standing in the aisle said in a loud and condescending voice; “Excuse me, what do you think you are doing?” I replied “checking out.” (I can be a smart you know what when I want to be) He then made some comment about being in line to which I replied; “How was I to know, you were just standing there in the aisle and this line was empty.” By this time the girl had finished ringing up my water and I was handing her the money. Now the guys still didn’t have their four cases of beer on the conveyor and one was still saying goodbye to the girls. In a loud voice, the other guy said; “Whatever.” I simply smiled and left the store. Sometimes saying nothing is the best way to communicate.

Have a great day,
Greg

15 comments:

Truth4thejourney said...

Dear Greg,

I am so glad that the book has helped you in so many ways. I know that it changed the way I communicated with my spouse and kids. Now to focus outward like you... That will take some thought. :)

Take Care,
Sonya Lee

The Dental Maven said...

I completely agree!

Well done.

skoots1mom said...

'i thought he was going to ask you to buy his beer...'

that is a great communicating book...glad you enjoyed it, more importantly that you're putting it into practice :)

and you're right, sometimes it's much better to be silent

skoots1mom said...

I forgot to ask for your prayers...

my great niece, Katie, needs extra prayers ... she's going to the OR today @ 2PM (cleaning infection from her heart-surgery chest incision)
Thanks for keeping her in your prayers...

Chatty Kelly said...

Good for you for not losing your cool! Yay!

Katherine Aucoin said...

I probably need to give that book a read.

Nervy kid huh?

Collette@Jesuslovesmums said...

Good for you holding your tongue! I probably would have said something!
Collette xx

Heart2Heart said...

I am the consumate avoider! I would have completely ignored them. I hate conflict, I put my hubby up to that, but now that I think about it, I would be shushing him and telling him to walk away if he commented.

I followed you from Collette's blog and simply love your writing style. I will definitely be back!

Love and Hugs ~ Kat

Jenny said...

Wow I may need to read that book, I probably would have chewed him out.

Wanda said...

I thought maybe they would invite you to their party.....


BTW ~ your book has help a lot of people communicate better...me included.

Chel's Leaving a Legacy said...

Hey stranger!

I have always wanted to read that book, but I never have. It's one of those "one of these days" books. :-) Sounds like I need to get on the ball on that one.

I'm really proud of you for not jumping all over that kid. Self control is a sure sign of spiritual maturity and wisdom! :-)

Jane In The Jungle said...

One of my friends just got it and likes it so well she's passing it on to me, can't wait!

Gina Stinson said...

Rain made my list this week too! Thank God He knows just what we need. Happy TT!

Britanny said...

My husband and I read this book also...(we have been married almost two years and just had our first son!!) would you believe that we were not the same language!:) It really helped us to understand each other and love in ways that the other person needs! Love your blog!...

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